I don’t even want a Wife! I want one or more Friends With Benefits relationships, where the benefits are “will play with my hair and allow me to call them pet names maybe hold hands in a bookstore with me when I’m in town”.
i genuinely don’t get cishet monsterfuckers. for context, in the wake of shape of water i participated in this loving-the-monstrous type discussion event slash publishing party wherein i debuted a short story about a woman who “befriends” a cave monster—but that isnt the point. the point is i had to hear straight women talk for hours about how the appeal of monsters is some kind of weird “taming the beast” fantasy—loving a monster until it loves you back, sounding like every bad beauty and the beast take ever.
And there’s my queer ass being like literally none of you get it. this isn’t about power, this is about love and alienation and acceptance. you dumbasses, I’m the monster. this isn’t a metaphor for your shitty boyfriend, this is a metaphor for my own alienation from a society that tells me a the way i am and the way I love are grotesque. this is a fantasy of love free of judgement, separate from societal standards that I’ll never live up to anyway. that ghoul doesn’t care if I’m fat, they think it’s hot that I eat well. that immortal fae creature doesn’t care if the gender on my birth certificate matches the one I use now, they barely have a concept of gender in the first place. that tentacle monster doesn’t care if I shave, they don’t have eyes
monsterfucking is queer culture, everyone else go home
Oh. I’m guessing those were all yt women, too. Del Toro isn’t Queer, afaik, but he -is- Mexican in the us. It wasn’t really that long ago that interracial relationships were just as forbidden and taboo as Queer ones and there’s still obviously race tensions going on. The other in Shape of the Water is just as much, and likely written as, being a different race and the feeling of alienation of having a different place of origin. It happens to resonate with everyone who’s ever been considered a monster by society, and there’s not just one way this has happened.
The whole “love someone until they’re not a monster” is extra, super gross in that context because people don’t feel BIPOC are actually capable of human emotions who need to be taught to be human by some benevolent yt person who’s fetishised their body.
no offense but let bisexual girls talk about boys like… y'all praise us when we gush about other girls but when we mention a cute boy y'all call us straight… like how do you expect bisexuals to feel comfortable with themselves if you only show validation for part of their attraction?? it just doesn’t make sense??
same with bi boys who dare mention a girl they like. please. dont fucking force people to ignore a part of their sexuality just because you’re looking for any excuse to exclude someone.
imagine hating lesbians who simply don’t care to hear about your boyfriends this much
Bi people: we are bi for a reason and we should be accepted for all aspects of our attraction in all contexts, not invalidated as being only gay or straight
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